
I just downloaded this from the net, since I didn’t want to take photos of people’s kids (and also since the painting is better than what I did)
So, I worked a five year old’s birthday party this past Saturday as a face painter. As I speculated beforehand, my young patrons asked for rainbows and unicorns (and one flower), which is good because the face paint was not the world’s most versatile medium! I don’t know if I could have painted a truly intricate subject with that goop…and it was more intimidating than you might expect to paint on the beautifully coiffed and perfectly attired little princesses of Park Slope (though in truth I think it would be intimidating to paint any person’s face for the same reason—you have to look directly at them and touch their face). I felt like one of the supporting characters in a Disney movie “’Here now, your highness…Don’t squirm so or it won’t look right!” Thank goodness I didn’t paint any mutant ponies, monster fairies, or melted peonies!
Anyway I really love painting & children & parties (and I needed the money) so the afternoon was delightful. Despite my time in the toy industry, I haven’t been to a five year old’s party since I was five. The guests seemed to enjoy the beauty and thrill of life and the event with rare zest! It reminded me of something else too. The children’s party outfits were the most beautiful possible colors—brilliant aqua, radiant pink, magenta, crimson, and glowing lavender. Then I looked at the parents sipping their cocktails and talking about jobs and international trade and real estate. All the adults were wearing sad dull colors like we had been impressed into some glum army of despair. What happened? Why do we shy away from color as we grow older? Color is one of life’s greatest delights. Are we afraid that we’ll rob it of its power if we overuse it (the children had no such qualms)? Or do we think the scintillant beauty of colorful garb will highlight the weaknesses of our own appearances and draw unwanted attention and unflattering comments?
I was forcefully reminded of the pretty corn snakes which lived in the fields and forests of the hill farm when I grew up. When they are newly hatched they glisten with bands of scarlet, orange, and luxurious cream, but when they grow into adult snakes their colors become muted and they blend in with the clay and the fallen leaves (the better to evade the attention of predators and to seize on unwary mice, I guess). Is it that way for adults? Unless we are pop stars on stage or master gunnery sergeants on parade, it is better not to draw too much attention or risk looking foolish with a garish combination. That strikes me as a sad way to live (although I guess it has a certain Puritan modesty and no small measure of self-interested cunning).
Of course a children’s birthday party is not the right place for grown-ups to get gussied up anyway (unless they are the clown, which I might have been). However as I transition back into office life, I notice everyone wears a lot of gray, taupe, khaki, and navy. I am sure that some of that is protective camouflage—it really is best to blend into the walls on Wall Street. But still, there is something unsatisfactory about our culture that it encourages drabness.
Sigh, maybe I need to move to India or Thailand. They are certainly calling me louder than my new life in title insurance!
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July 1, 2015 at 11:36 PM
AManCalledDada
Well, how’d you like to illustrate one of Da-da’s future books?
July 13, 2015 at 1:27 AM
Wayne
That sounds most delightful and colorful!
July 1, 2015 at 11:44 PM
Calendar Girl
That’s it! I am wearing an emerald green dress to work tomorrow!
July 13, 2015 at 1:27 AM
Wayne
Oooh! I love that color! Did you wear the dress? I hope you still have a job (or even better maybe they made you queen and built a statue of you).
July 13, 2015 at 1:35 AM
Calendar Girl
I put the dress on, and didn’t like how it fit any more, so I wore a darker green one. I’ll wear shamrock green tomorrow just for you and will report on how it went, statues and everything!
July 2, 2015 at 5:10 AM
agnesashe
Oh how I so, so agree with you about colour – and the drab, drab aesthetic of this so called ‘taste’ in the West. I think you’re right about fear of looking foolish. We are lead to believe that we live in highly individualistic times, but turn up to the office in turquoise and orange and you are written off as a weirdo! I think it’s to do with the elites as since everybody has had access to cheap, chemically dyed cloth, looking colourful in expensive bright clothing is no longer exclusive to the seriously wealthy. I think the five year olds have got the right approach.
July 13, 2015 at 1:24 AM
Wayne
You bring up some really good points! It makes me wonder why our elites are so puritanical about color? Are they afraid it will make us realize how drab the framework of our work lives is?
July 13, 2015 at 11:32 AM
agnesashe
You might well have an angle there – they want us drones to know our place and not to break out into a colourful rejection of the drab and thereby realign the framework and its boundaries.
July 19, 2015 at 10:06 PM
Wayne
Amen, sister. Just look at cults or laborers or the military (although I guess prison has moved to a jaunty shade of incandescent orange–so maybe our theory needs some work). 🙂
July 20, 2015 at 4:30 AM
agnesashe
Ah yes, but ‘the uniform orange’ is a very clever choice as it draws attention en masse with no subtlety and no variation and has almost overnight become a signifier of the negative side of society so much so that it has morphed again with ‘Orange is the new black’ TV series. It appears that endless variety and variation is perhaps viewed as the most destabilising, but nature begs to disagree!
July 21, 2015 at 11:33 PM
Wayne
Because of high visibility, orange seems to have its own strange category. I suppose hunters, prisoners, and marine rescue personnel stand outside the monolithic social structures of fashion by special necessity.
July 2, 2015 at 10:21 AM
frithkin
My favorite colour as a five year old was grey , it is a very beautiful color and very mutable also . My main motivation for grey being my favourite color was that I thought it would be lonely as it was no ones favourite colour excepting mine .
July 13, 2015 at 1:15 AM
Wayne
Frithkin, you contrarian! What kind of five year old were you? Thank you for the story…and I suspect gray was sad and underappreciated…until it got to the title insurance office (whereupon, it took over).
July 13, 2015 at 6:55 AM
frithkin
I was a very strange child indeed !!
July 19, 2015 at 10:06 PM
Wayne
🙂
July 3, 2015 at 1:21 AM
Calendar Girl
Now I wonder (while not finishing reading the recipe post ;-)) if what makes us wear dull is not so much conformism or society (how does that even work??) but rather the less happy state of our souls as adults.
I reach for light and sparkly when I am airy, red when aggressive, green or blue when grounded, and dark when drained (or… uhm… had a bit too much to eat). The “business” colors are much livelier in California, where there is more sunshine, and, arguably, more happiness as a result.
Thank you again for sharing thoughts about colors: it was fun lingering with them for the last day or so.
July 13, 2015 at 1:13 AM
Wayne
I think you may be right about our sad adult souls. Fortunately I have noticed that old people regain their love of colors when they are free of bosses and masters (and not afraid some joyless supervisor will dock their pay). Maybe I need to head out to California and avoid the black and gray of Wall Street.
July 13, 2015 at 1:36 AM
Calendar Girl
Feel free to crash on my couch, if you are in town 🙂
July 19, 2015 at 10:08 PM
Wayne
Haha! Be careful what you offer!
July 20, 2015 at 1:01 PM
Calendar Girl
Considering my current circumstances, offering my couch is a civic duty and a way to give back to the universe (or something like that)!
July 21, 2015 at 11:30 PM
Wayne
🙂